Reverb13 Prompt 14: Decisions
What was the best decision you made in 2013? What were the results? How will you continue the good work in 2014?
The absolute best decision I made in 2013 was to lean into my relationship with my partner and move in together. No question! Based on my relationship history, these risks were not easy, though in retrospect it seems like a no-brainer. The result is experiencing a contentment and happiness I didn’t know was possible, and understand what it actually means for two people to connect and support each other in their goals. It has also changed my mindset about what I ‘deserve’ which shows up other parts of my life.
Work-wise, the best decision I made was to issue a paperback version of my book, Confessions of a Teacher Recruiter: How to Create an Extraordinary Resume and Hook Your Dream Job. The whole book concept originated from a request I had from a client to do an ebook for their teachers- they would pre-buy a bunch of copies and I would retain the rights so I could sell it on my website and for the Amazon Kindle. In June, I decided to do a paperback because someone requested it. My attitude was why not? It took me 45 days to figure out how to do a print-on-demand version and I almost gave up. It was well worth it though because since I put it on the market, it has outsold the Kindle version 3 to 1 and I’ve had enough interest for a 2nd edition that can be shelved in bookstores. Apparently, people love their resume books in print!
I have some BIG decisions in 2014. I can boil them down to 3.
1. What does it mean to be healthy and how can I align my daily decisions to support that?
2. What will motherhood look like for me? I’ll be 39 in June. I need to have some answers.
3. What do I want the professional aspect of my life to feel like? Do I want to stay in biz for myself OR join another team and write my books on the side? Neither feels exactly right at the moment.
I have actually been trudging through a book called Decisive by Chip and Dan Heath on making difficult decisions. I think they actually give some great points, but it hasn’t clicked for me yet and I’ve had a hard time getting through it.
One of their tests is to step back and ask yourself what you’d tell your best friend in the world if he or she was in the same situation? It’s supposed to be an easy test, but I don’t know! Another test is to set ‘tripwires’ that can let you know something is going “wrong” and you can evaluate your original decision. A revenue goal is a recommended goal in my situation. But what if it all feels so subjective… last year, I had all the money, this year not so much. A few years ago, my current financial situation would have made me feel awful. Now… just slightly uncomfortable. I can’t even decide what a simple tripwire would be!
A last suggestion the Heath brothers have is to identify your core priorities. I am going to guess that is where I need to spend more time if I am going to follow-through on the commitment to myself.